Picky, picky.

How do you like his wings?

This little guy hates food.

He eats: macaroni and cheese, bread, rice, fruit, beans, cheese. Anything white or light brown.

He won’t eat: meat, vegetables, anything green. 95% of what I’m cooking these days.

I don’t make him anything special. I put out what I’m making for dinner and I rarely even give him a plate, because he looks at what we’re eating, and takes off. I also rarely make any of the foods he does eat, other than beans, so he skips meals pretty constantly, even though the doctor has told me “He’ll eat whatever you give him if you don’t give in.” I think it’s a lie that “kids will eat when they’re hungry.” The kid is definitely hungry. He eats like a monster if we serve anything he actually likes. He’s also a pipsqueak when his height is compared to his weight. Jake and I both have recently started just feeding him whatever the fattiest caloric things he will eat when we have them.

If I put a food into his mouth, he spits it out before he tastes it, or just closes his lips so tightly I can’t get it in. He doesn’t care how many times he goes in time out and he doesn’t care about the bribe of dessert. He wants the dessert, so badly, and he will scream about it, but he will NEVER eat that bite of food you want him to eat.

I just can’t understand this. Part of me gets that there are people in this world that could care less if they eat their spaghetti with canned tomato sauce (and I know some of them), but also part of me thinks if they just could taste something better, they would be instantly converted.

I guess it’s not true. Some people don’t care about food.

I can barely believe it. Like, if I make some Korean tacos, there is no way Mozely will even try it. And I think there are people out there that even if I got them to take a bite of this Korean Taco, that they would prefer Taco Bell in a heartbeat. Mozely better not be one of those people when he grows up. He and I will not get along.

My favorite taco truck, the Tiki Truck, has “crack sauce” (the recipe of which I would pay a pretty price), and I just try my darndest to make a creamy coleslaw to remind me of it, especially now that he just announced he’s closing down the truck until further notice.

I wrote an article about Korean Tacos that is coming out in the paper tomorrow. These aren’t the pictures that I submitted for that article but they look pretty good too. I am missing tortillas as of this moment, because I went back on my Paleo diet.

(Remember tip #1? Man, I’ve been repeating that one a lot lately.)

So here’s my thought about food, for today, but they relate to diets too.

Tip #5: Try something new.

Some Paleo and Clean Eating people I’ve been paying attention to, that actually make good looking food.

Andy Doanut

PaleOMG

Ghitae

and Emma, a friend from High School who was an exchange student from Australia. Her food is wonderful.

By the way, I’m on Instagram. A lot. It’s the new Facebook and food blog. I’ll see you there.

Crepes are Especially for You

Last week Amaya woke up in the middle of the night, drooling and crying. When she opened her mouth, we saw that she had a white, swollen tongue.

The next three days were awful. Awful. Awful.

We took her to the hour-away doctor on day one, where she was diagnosed as having some sort of mouth fungus (unusual in kids her age) and we were supposed to pick up a prescription that afternoon at our local pharmacy.

Oops. It wasn’t there. I called, the office was already closed. I called 4 times the next day about it, then again the next. In the mean time, Amaya was completely miserable.

Every time she put a bite of food in her mouth, she would immediately spit it out.

“It doesn’t taste goooood,” she cried.

She didn’t like water, ice cream, popsicles, nachos (her favorite food) or anything at all. She sobbed in despair, hungry and feeling punished.

This was so hard to watch for us. We tried buying her anything she liked, and even demanded her to eat because we worried she would dehydrate. She took a few, miserable bites.

On the third day I tried to give her oatmeal. She was so happy about oatmeal. She ate three huge bowls of it. Later the next day it seemed she was getting better.

First thing we did was buy fruity cheerios, which are basically fruit loops for guilt-ridden parents.

We immediately started giving her treats of all kinds. We took her out to eat, she got to choose, and she was so happy about eating. She has been saying for a week now: “I’m so glad I can eat again!”

I made her crepes for breakfast. With chocolate sauce, whipped cream, and raspberries. Basically, dessert.

I’ve never seen crepes make anyone so happy.

There are a million crepe recipes out there, and they’re pretty similar. My dad has one that’s really thick, which may be like the secret crepe recipe.

But I’ll tell you a couple of things to take your crepe to the next level.

Grate some lime or lemon zest in to the sugar for the batter and rub it around in there with your fingers. It is fantastic. The cooked crepe has just a hint of that sweet zest.

If you have a 12 inch saute pan, Use just under a 1/3 cup of batter for each crepe. The batter should swirl around once and that’s about it. I tilt the pan as I’m pouring in the batter.

Your heat should be at medium. I really recommend this cook’s illustrated recommended pan for your non-stick cooking: The T-fal professional total non-stick 12.5” pan. It’s inexpensive and I’ve had it for a year now and it’s still going strong. Pretty much everyone agrees though that non-stick pans don’t last very long, unfortunately.

Flip the crepe when the edges are just barely turning brown. It will be dry enough for you to flip it over with a little help from a chopstick or spatula. If you have to slide the spatula underneath the crepe to lift it up, either you pan isn’t non-stick enough, or it’s not finished cooking enough. Food should lift easily away if it is finished cooking. I’ve used my cast iron skillet for this too, and it works. It’s just too heavy to swirl around.

Chocolate Sauce for Crepes

When I was growing up this is the only way we ate crepes. With chocolate sauce. I never questioned it. I also have to recommend eating your crepes with your hands. My parents always got mad at me for it, but you know what? It tastes so much better without a fork in the way.

• 1 1/2 Cups Ghiradelli milk chocolate chips
• 1/4 Cup milk

1. Put the chocolate and milk into a microwave safe bowl. Heat it in the microwave for 30 seconds. Stir. Heat for another 30 seconds, stir. If the chocolate is not completely melted at this point, heat for another 10-seconds and stir again.
2. If the sauce is not loose enough for you, you can add a tablespoon more of milk and stir, but wait until the milk isn’t so cold and the chocolate isn’t so hot. Otherwise it will seize up and get grainy.

Serve with crepes (pour chocolate down the center and roll it up), bananas, strawberries… Anything. After an afternoon in the fridge the leftover sauce has a fudge-like texture that you can’t help dipping into with a spoon. Straight.

Feeding Kids Real Food

I like to pretend that my approach to feeding kids is like this:

Weird, but also undeniably entertaining to kids.

But really, it’s probably more like this.

When my kids talk about me when they’re older I’m going to be the weird food mom. The one that feeds her kids green smoothies and acts like you won’t even taste the tofu.

I mean, I make cookies, but I make kale salad, vegan pizza, and veggie lasagna with marinated tofu and brown rice noodles or other similarly scary to kid items all the time, too.

Sometimes I forget. Say I took this vegan lasagna for a get-together dinner with kids that are not my own. Oops. Suddenly I felt like I am a bit of a food-torturer. I guess tofu mom should stay home behind closed doors. 

Food is strange. It has such an affect on the social atmosphere and vice versa.

I think it’s definitely a personal choice how important what your kids eat is to you. I totally get why some parents stick to chicken nuggets and white rice and quesadillas. My daughter would have been perfectly content to eat those things herself.

I think the question: “How do I get my kids to eat real food?” is a tough one. It’s something I’m thinking a lot about now that I’m on my second approach with the 2nd kid. He seems to be just as picky and stubborn about food as Amaya was. The most common answers are flawed. Cooking with your kids is great, but that doesn’t necessarily make my daughter eat anything. Hiding healthy food (i.e. Spinach brownies) is great for getting nutrition into unsuspecting kids, but it doesn’t help kids enjoy real food.

Here’s what I do to help my daughter learn to love real food. She’s pretty great now about eating everything without complaining. Usually.

Cook a lot of different food. I have a few meals that I repeat, but generally I am always trying new recipes. That’s just my personality. It’s easy to stick with a few foods that you know your kids like, but it can give them an expectation that’s hard to break. Amaya knows that rice is not only white or even brown and meat can be bone on or falling off the bone. I don’t have to play the “but this is something you like” game because she’s seen most foods cooked in many ways.

Take kids out to eat at places that have different foods than what you normally eat. Taking kids to restaurants is not ideal for a Friday night date, but it does mix that whole “this is special” thing with the opportunity of trying new foods.

Require them to eat new foods. So many people have told me this is a bad idea. There are a lot of people that subscribe to the “they’ll eat if they’re hungry” thing. I think this is true for many kids, but not for a picky one. Picky kids will wait until they’re hungry and cranky and still fight you.

This part can be painful. Amaya has actually convinced herself into gagging so many times. Fits and multiple time outs are something I hope you’ll find a way around.

My rules have to do with variety. Throwing variables into my cooking is exactly what has taught me to love different and new foods over the years, so why shouldn’t it work for kids?

I’ve had to repeat these steps for years. My daughter is incredibly stubborn. I guess on this issue, I’ve been more stubborn.

How do you introduce your kids to real food?

What I’ve Learned in Ten Years of Marriage

Two is oh-so-much better

for cleaning up.

If you had told me ten years ago that cleaning up, and just the general business of living together was, almost, as important as sex, I would have really laughed at you.

It’s important that both of those things happen in a good marriage, even if it involves some work. Plus the value of it increases with time.

And when one person leaves, let’s say, for a two week trip to American Samoa (and leaves you alone with two kids)---

you’re pretty happy to have that person back.

For at least two reasons.

P.S.

How awesome is my ten-years-ago teenage brother?

The angst-icon for a new generation.

Foodbuzz 24x24: Pop! Pop! Pop!

Today was a good day. Amaya played hard at her very own birthday party. The kids weren’t one bit bothered by the rain, and still played hide & go seek, jumped on the trampoline, and made bubbles by the boatful. They were soapy, soaked, sugared-out, and happy for 5 straight hours.

That’s the way birthdays should be. I remember crying at a few of my own kid-birthday parties, about stupid things, but mostly it was about expectations. Amaya played it cool, all the way through, and just wanted to have fun.

For this month’s Foodbuzz 24, 24, 24 (click to see all the other fun, creative events held on Saturday, June 25th) the glorious editors at Foodbuzz chose to support Amaya’s 5th birthday party. For our theme we went with Pop!sicles, Pop! (soda for you urban folks), and Pop!ping Bubbles.

If you know me, you know throwing a party is not my thing. That’s the kind of talent that’s similar to craftiness. I love to cook but cooking for a party throws me off. I just want to hide out until she’s 18 and she can throw her own parties. If she wants.

So I took a deep breath and dove into party planning. I thought about parties I’ve been to and I put those experiences to good use when I was planning my party. I’d like to share those thoughts with you here.

Invite Electronically

I used Facebook to invite everyone to the party. I sent invites to the parents and it was easier than easy to monitor who was coming or not because of the quick “attending” button. I called those that didn’t respond to make sure that they saw the invitation. This saved me tons of hassle. Maybe it’s not classy, but hey, is this about invitations or a party?

Focus on Food Made with Love

I went looking around for some of my favorite products, especially ones that would not be run of the mill for most people. One of the reasons to have a party is to entertain the guests, and why not give them something to remember?

For this reason I chose OnoPops and Waialua Soda Works. These are both local companies that I have loved and I knew they would be a hit at our party. Both companies feature local ingredients. One really amazing thing about supporting local companies is that you get a better connection with the people behind the product. It doesn’t feel like a clinical transaction. I went by OnoPops kitchen and got a quick peek at his progress on the first lychee pops of the season and felt confident by my interchanges with both OnoPops and Waialua Soda Works that I was supporting real people doing something that they love. I feel the same way about Farmer’s Markets. It’s hard to feel anything when you’re walking down the aisles of a supermarket.

My favorite part about OnoPops is their outrageously creative flavors. The guys behind the operation, Joe and Josh, have made a very smart product and I hope to try every one of their many, many flavors. They currently sell OnoPops at local farmer’s markets, Whole Foods Kahala, and several other stores that sell organic and local products.

I took the stranger route and started with an Ume Thai Basil.

With the first few licks I wasn’t sure, but pretty soon I couldn’t get enough of it. The salty plum taste was so well-conceptualized as an icy dessert.

Later I had a Gingatanical green and I was breathing fire by the end of the pop, but I loved it anyway. It felt energizing and refreshing. Everyone else thought I was crazy.

There were sweeter flavors for everyone (even a few no-sugar added ones), and strong favorites were the Mexican Chocolate and Dark Chocolate Chinese Five Spice OnoPops. I could eat about a million of those Chinese Five Spice treats. It was definitely a departure from normal party fare and part of the fun was trying out a new flavor, once the kids saw that “Cherry” and “Grape” were not options today. We all had multiple popsicles and passed around our favorites. Yum.

Just thinking about these popsicles made me want to make a cool popsicle. This week I made a li hing mui mango popsicle. Mangos are a classic li hing mui accompaniment and the pair make a modern island-traditional snack.

• 1 Cup water
• 1 Cup mangos
• 2 Tablespoons lemon juice
• 1/2 tsp li hing mui

1. Blend all the ingredients together and freeze in popsicle molds. Note, it is very thick. I had to siphon mine into the mold.

Seen here in its natural element.

From Waialua Soda, Karen and Jason Campbell have created a light tasting soda featuring uniquely Hawaiian flavors. I like that this pop has sharp, fresh bubbles, and isn’t syrupy sweet. Waialua Soda uses glass bottles, which is a naturally attractive choice for a party, so there’s no need for plastic cups! Everyone went in for 2nds and 3rds because we wanted to try all the flavors. You can find Waialua Soda at Cost Plus World Market locations nationwide as well as at many local businesses.

Simple Appetizers Only (and perfect for hands-on eating)

I didn’t want to have food that wouldn’t taste good (or be safe) after sitting around at room temperature for hours. In Hawaii it’s pretty much a no-no to not serve a meal, but I scheduled the party from 2-4 (although most people stayed until 7, which made me feel like a success!). I didn’t feel comfortable giving out food that wouldn’t taste good after it cooled down, so I picked things that would stay good the whole party. Also, I had time to make the food without running around like a crazy person for three days straight (I only did that for two days).

For the rest of our spread I made from scratch hummus, cupcakes, homemade salsa and served with tortilla chips, fruit, and vegetable sticks (all seen here in my husband’s hand-made, wheel-thrown, beautiful bowls. Lucky, aren’t I?).

Oh, and cake pops.

Yes, people, I made cake pops. I’m the girl that lacks craftiness, and cake pops are the ultimate crafty food. I know, mine are not that pretty, but we all ate them. Because these ones actually tasted GOOD. Cake pops are notorious for having just a one-size-fits-all sweet flavor. These ones were guava flavored, and the cake flavor stayed true through every bite. I originally wanted to make a mango flavored cake pop, but the mango flavor just didn’t come through and I kicked that recipe out the door.

P.S. We are all good parents. Cake pops are for special, only. Plus we did cut the limit of cake pops to 5 or less. Ha ha.

Guava Cake Pop Instructions (makes 40-45 pops)

(click the links to print the recipes and instructions, without pictures)

1. First I baked a guava cake from Kaui Philpotts’ book, Hawaiian Country Tables. With this recipe you’ll make about 40-45 cake pops. It helps SO much for your brain if you don’t have a baby grabbing onto your leg every two seconds. Maybe you will remember to make sure your camera is not on JPEG because you won’t get any good pictures of the cake making and next three steps, otherwise.

2. Then I let it cool completely. COMPLETELY. There are a lot of points during this construction that I have an urge to ignore warnings (which is exactly why I will never be a seamstress), but don’t ignore this.

3. While it is cooling, make a guava syrup from 1 Cup of guava puree and 1/4 Cup sugar. Heat the puree and the sugar in a saucepan over medium heat. Let it simmer, stirring constantly, until it reduces to about 1/3 of a cup of sauce.

4. When the cake is completely cooled, cut off the edges and the bottom of the cake (if crusty at all) and discard those hard edges.

 

Crumble the rest of the cake into little itty bitty crumbs in a large bowl.

 

Ignore all that crap you just got on the floor. Your kitchen is about to get a lot messier.

5. Mix in a cup of cream cheese frosting and the guava syrup into the cake crumbs. Stir it all together with a wooden spoon until fully incorporated. Try to make a test ball out of about 2 Tbsp of cake crumbs. If the ball falls apart easily, add more cream cheese frosting (a Tablespoon or two at a time) and try again. Too much or too little frosting can make or break your cake pops.

6. Make cake balls out of the cake crumbs by rolling together a couple of tablespoons of crumbs, making sure they are firm with no cracks. Put the cake balls in the fridge until you are ready to make and (soon) serve your cake pops.

7. Pull out the cake balls from the fridge. Put desired sprinkles in a bowl.

In a bowl that has high sides and isn’t too wide, melt 2 Cups of white chocolate candy pieces in the microwave for 1 minute, 20 seconds, stirring every 30 seconds and removing the bowl when the chocolate is completely melted. (when this runs out, melt about a cup more of white chocolate for the rest of the pops and repeat as necessary). 

Using at least 6” lollipop sticks, dip the end of the stick into the white chocolate (about 1/2”) and then push that end about halfway into a cake ball.

8. Dip this newly formed ball on a stick into the melted white chocolate, putting the pop straight down. Hopefully this action will cover the whole cake pop in one go, up to the bottom of the stick. DO NOT TURN the cake pop. Use a spoon, if necessary to drape the rest of the cake pop in the chocolate by spooning the chocolate over the part of the cake pop that is exposed, without turning and tiling the cake pop. Lift the pop out, straight up, and then hold it over the bowl on its side and tap your arm gently to remove the excess chocolate. Don’t tap the pop on the side of the bowl—just your arm. 9. Sprinkle as desired while the chocolate is still wet. (note, dipping the pop into the sprinkles does not work and only results in a bunch of chocolate being put into your sprinkles). Push the pop straight down into a piece of Styrofoam so it will dry easily. I found that if I sliced a small x into the Styrofoam with a sharp paring knife that it was easiest to push the stick through it. Let it dry completely (takes a minute or two) and serve. Will keep at room temperature for several hours. Can be stored in the freezer but not the fridge.

Even though these were tasty, once I started getting the idea, I had to make the most perfect cupcake ever. (Oh, was I talking about a diet during the last post? Puhleeeze. I am so cheating today.)

Orangette’s chocolate cupcake (A Homemade Life has become one of my very favorite books, and I have adopted her recipes as my new favorite foods.)

Baked's Matt Lewis’ caramel (as a filling) from his caramel apple cake. Jake made this cake for me for Mother’s Day and we’ve been dipping into this amazingly rich and buttery caramel ever since.

and The Pioneer Woman’s best frosting ever.

Are you drooling yet? Did I just put the most perfect three recipes together for the first time ever?

I just blew your mind. I know. I cored out the middle of the cupcake and then put a heaping teaspoon of caramel in the middle.

Fun Activities without Directions

Kids play fun games at birthday parties, but I already knew that wasn’t my style. I didn’t see much reason to corral everyone into a game that not everyone wanted to play. Instead I put out bubbles (homemade: 4 gallons of distilled water and 8 Cups of dawn dish soap—regular, not antibacterial, mixed the night before for proper development of prime bubble making) with spatulas, cookie cutter shapes, and yarn and straw wands. I made a big bucket and left it out for the kids to play whenever they felt like it. Pretty soon they discovered that their own hands were just as good as any of the wands. (click here for where I got the bubble idea). Y’know what’s great about bubbles? No directions needed. Other good activities like that are sidewalk chalk, sidewalk paint, and a big area to play in. Check, check, check. The kids went back and forth through all of these activities when they felt like it, eating popsicles and salsa in between, and the adults could enjoy hanging out together without worrying about keeping their kids in check.

Make it Special for Everyone

It was Amaya’s birthday, but the great thing was that it was a party for everyone. I didn’t want there to be too much emphasis on her alone, as that’s where jealousy or embarrassment can get mixed in. I asked guests to not bring gifts (and the few that were brought, not wrapped, were given on the side) and we never did sing Happy Birthday or have any sort of “look at me” formal agenda. Gifts are really fun, and I know she’ll get a few, but I didn’t want anyone to feel pressure about buying anything and it helped that we didn’t introduce any rivalries with the whole “watch me while I open my new cool presents” thing. I know my daughter, and she sometimes gets focused on the wrong things in big group situations. Do what feels comfortable for you. I know that Amaya did not feel deprived in any way. We’ll see how she feels when she’s turning 6.

Amaya has friends of all ages and sizes. She really lets you know she adores you. I have a hard time believing she’s my kid. She transcends age-differences and wants to have real conversations with everyone about their day, the last movie they saw, what they like to eat, whatever. And she does it with flair. Today was special for her because she got to eat as many cake pops as she wanted and played nonstop with her friends.

She loved every second of it.